Updated: Dec 13, 2020
Picture this. It’s December. Holiday ads everywhere, engagements popping up on social, onesie coordinated couple pics, texts from old friends and fam asking how you are and specifically asking if you’re dating anyone. Even though you’re happy with your life and doing your best to date, you still can’t help but feel…alone. Oh wait. No need to picture it. It’s happening. Only your single status has gone from “SO single” to “SO single without ANY IDEA how to mingle” given our current pandemic life.
Don’t worry my friends, inner boosters, or if you’re new, hi! You’re in the right place. By the time you get to the end of this blog you’ll have some mindset hacks, dating tips and even know how to handle the awkward pandemic kiss situation in a way that can actually be quite fun and respectful of differing views, with an easy way to move on from any awkward moments.
I’m a coach, author, strategist and human who has been through the same highs and lows of modern dating and have adapted some of the strategies from my book “From Swipe to Bae” as well as the top-secret guys version, to help anyone who would like to, date and grow a connection authentically, even in the pandemic.
Holidating (dating during the holiday season) can be both exciting and challenging. Exciting as you ride the wave of joy, giving, love and revel in the boost of hope as you meet new people during this season, it’s fun and gives you that extra spring in your step. The challenging side can be pretty tough, not only because of the added pressure around, if you’ve actually met someone you like, you naturally want to see more of them and schedules can be busy making it hard to see each other again. The added complexity of holiday dating will trigger any human to take any form of rejection, delayed dates or singledom vibes to next level low feels. Low vibes. Sadness!
Let’s say bye to that now. Get your tea, put on a festive song in the background and read on to go from “SO single” to “SO mingle”, pandemic or not!
And as it’s the season of giving, I’m giving both guys and gals free first date success guide downloads at the end. x
Holidating Success in 5 steps!
1. First, you need dates. Here’s how to quickly get more dates and you can video or meet in person, whatever you’re comfortable with:
Download a dating app of choice and spend 15-30 minutes a day matching (break it up in the morning and evening)
Take it into the phone zone and off the app as soon as you feel comfortable because it’s hard to see people as real humans until you’re more present in their real life, like the phone zone and then the date
If you don’t like dating apps then you MUST try City Swoon. Video speed dating. It’s such a great platform. Really easy to use with pre matches and fun hosts. I try anything I recommend personally before suggesting them and I think this is the best one out there. If you’re one of my inner boost members you get a discount. Just DM me on Instagram @thehaifaboost and I’ll give you the code. Think of it like a Live Swipe instead of an app swipe, great way to meet new people and suss out if you vibe
2. Second, you need a Mindset to survive the pressure of holidating!
Have a daily mantra that reminds you this is like any time of year, for example “dating during the holidays is just like any other time of year”to help you lift any self-pressure and stop you from putting any subconscious pressure on the date
Remember, dating is a way to get to know someone to see if there’s both chemistry